“True hospitality is marked by an open response to the dignity of each and every person. Henri Nouwen has described it as receiving the stranger on his own terms, and asserts that it can be offered only by those who ‘have found the center of their lives in their own hearts’.” -Kathleen Norris
“You couldn’t relive your life, skipping the awful parts, without losing what made it worthwhile. You had to accept it as a whole–like the world, or the person you loved.” Stewart O’Nan
#BeingLOVEDIs feeling appreciated. It is so important to have value in relationships.
#BeingLOVEDIs finding someone who takes a strong interest in who you are now. Not who you used to be. She doesn’t judge my past. Just relishes who I am now.
My favorite photographer Sean Capshaw at Resolusean Photography. He is one of San Diego’s most respected and well know wedding photographers.
One of my favorite trapeze artists came out to be a part of my charity event! Not only did they perform, but they also did my board! I really loved that!
The photos were provided by Sean Capshaw of Resolusean.
What is Christie’s Place?An organization that supports women and children affected by HIV/AIDS.
How did Estes Therapy and #BeingLOVEDIs choose Christie’s Place for the charity event?
This is a cause that has always struck a cord in my heart. A few years ago I created a documentary, “Living Without a Label,” that discussed the lives of those affected by HIV/AIDS. During the creation of my documentary I did research and conducted interviews at Christie’s Place. I was touched by the program, the impact they are making and people involved in the program. HIV and AIDS is a scary topic for anyone involved, but it isn’t the end of the line anymore, and you don’t have to be alone.
How much does it cost to get into the event? Do I have to donate?There is a $5 suggested donation at the door and the proceeds will go to the charity . All other donations made for raffles and events through out the evening will go to Christie’s Place. While donations are suggested and encouraged, if you are unable to donate, your attendance at the event to support a great cause is still making a big statement.
What will be happening at the event?This will be a circus celebratory event bringing together an eclectic mix of people in support of a great cause. There will be outdoor aerial performers, fireeaters, jugglers, contortionists and more! At the event you can get involved with the raffles, get dressed up for the photo booth, tell us what you think #BeingLovedIs and even get your relationship fortune read. Come — you won’t regret it!
Where is the event?
Club 1202 in Hillcrest on Friday, January 18th from 10-12am
“#beinglovedis having sweet unconditional puppy love.” Dogs do give great TLC! thanks Skip’s Awnings in Washington! #love #puppies #dog #puppy #skipsawnings #awnings #poodle
#BeingLOVEDIs finding, listening, and sharing answers 2012 and 2013.
We are listening to you! Our goal is to find out what others think it means to be loved, listen to their response, and share it with others. We are on a mission and we want you to be a part!
#BeingLOVEDIs being heard.
“#beinglovedis the inspiration to be better.” Love is healing and gives us inspiration to be so much more!
“#beinglovedis boobie.” Many moms will agree! #baby #nursing #cute #pink
“#beinglovedis my dad.”
“#BeingLOVEDIs being twins. Steven and Me.” Cute little 8 year old #twins! Twins often have a stronger closeness than other siblings. Very special. #cute #kids #siblings #family #iphoto
During the holiday season, my two nieces decided to put together a #BeingLOVEDIs photo with the shape of a heart. They stepped away from the family fun simply to put this together. The heart was made with photos of the #BeingLOVEDIs board. It took them about 40 minutes on creating this photo.
Here are a few of their quotes here what they thought being loved was all about:
#BeingLOVEDIs having a wonderful family.
#BeingLOVEDIs sharing my room with my sister.
#BeingLOVEDIs having your family over for the holidays.
#BeingLOVEDIs living in this home.
#BeingLOVEDIs having a nice auntie.
#BeingLOVEDIs making new friends.
#BeingLOVEDIs making new memories.
#BeingLOVEDIs auntie’s girls.
Sometimes #beinglovedis just a simple rainbow with a cute smile! Kids know how to describe a feeling in a way we all can understand!
#BeingLOVEDIs about spending time with family during the holidays! Christmas is a time to enjoy your family. Traditions, christmas trees, and baby’s 1st Christmas all have the warm and fuzzy feelings of love!
“#beinglovedis being chosen.” This is an adoption family that always makes my heart melt!!! Here is their story:
Avery and James and got married in April 2010 and wanted to start a family right away. They tried to get pregnant for 8 months with no luck (and two very early miscarriages). They weren’t ready to get testing to find out why they weren’t pregnant, so they decided to get foster care licensed to see where that might take them. In March 2011 they went through all of the training to get licensed.
As luck would have it, shortly after they became licensed, Avery decided to go to the mall with a friend for a “pick me up day.” As Avery was getting her makeup done at a department store, she started chatting with the makeup artist (Caitlyn). Suddenly, Avery just blurted out: “We can’t have kids!” Then the most amazing thing happened – Caitlyn said “My sister is pregnant and can’t keep the baby.” Avery wanted to jump up on the chair and scream but instead she just calmly said, “Is she planning on placing the baby for adoption and has she chosen a family?” When she found out there were no plans for where to place the baby, Avery just said, “We’ll adopt him.”
Caitlyn revealed that her sister was using drugs and had 5 other children. She said that her mom and dad had adopted 4 of them in October 2010. Caitlyn said she would have her mom call Avery because her sister (Stacy) didn’t have a phone and was currently homeless. At that point Avery was feeling a little discouraged. Still, when she got in the car she called her husband and said, “I found a baby at the mall for us to adopt.” He was skeptical at first, but eventually they waited all weekend to hear from Caitlyn and Stacy’s mother.
Early the next week Avery and James were in the living room discussing if they should call that Caitlyn girl or not. Then, almost as if out of a movie, the phone rang. The voice at the other end said, “My name is Stacy. You don’t know me and this is a little awkward, but you met my sister at the mall last week and she told me you want to adopt a baby.” Stacy said she wanted to meet the couple and asked if they could set up a time. She said that she needed to call her mom and see when she was available because she wanted her there as well. Within a few minutes they had plans to meet at an Olive Garden.
When they met for lunch, Avery was so nervous she could hardly eat. She asked Stacy a bunch of questions about herself; she wanted to get to know her and show that she had a genuine interest in Stacy as a person. Stacy was quiet and nervous and didn’t say talk too much, but she opened up about her kids and about her pregnancy. Eventually, Caitlyn, Stacy and their mom all started crying and said they knew it was meant to be for them to meet Avery and James. Then Stacy said she liked the couple and that she wanted them to adopt her baby! She put her hand on her belly and said, “This is your baby, you are going to be parents, congratulations.” Avery couldn’t believe her ears — adoption wasn’t supposed to happen this easily! Stacy even invited them to an ultrasound appointment the next day.
At the ultrasound, Avery sat right next to Stacy and had her eyes locked on the monitor. As soon as she heard the baby’s little heartbeat and saw it beating on the screen Avery began to cry. The ultra sound tech asked if Avery was the aunt and Stacy responded that she was going to be his mother.
Avery and James met Stacy at the beginning of April, and from the time Avery met her until the day Stacy delivered they spent as much time together as possible and developed a true friendship.
Stacy wasn’t due with the baby until August, but in May, 10 weeks early, Avery and James’ son was born. They named him Oliver and for the next 6 weeks they stayed by his side at the Newborn Intensive Care Unit. Stacy relinquished her rights 24 hours after Oliver was born, but Avery and James allowed her and her family in the hospital whenever we wanted to see him.
Today Oliver is healthy and Avery and James still maintain an open relationship with Stacy and her family. Stacy’s parents even babysit sometimes and invite the family over for big dinners. Avery is secure as Oliver’s mother and is happy to allow Stacy and her family to be involved and love her son.
When Oliver was 7 months old Avery told her husband that it was time to do fertility testing and get to the bottom of what was going on. She told him that they would never be able to find another baby like they did with Oliver and that they needed to try and get pregnant if they wanted more kids. Ultimately, Avery and James found out that they both had fertility issues and that even expensive IVF (which they couldn’t afford) might not work. The couple considered taking out loans but they decided it was too risky considering there really wasn’t a guarantee. They decided to adopt again.
Instead of feeling sorry for herself, Avery wrote a letter to family and friends that read in part:
“Dear Family and Friends,
As many of you may or may not know, James and I have found out recently that the chances of us having biological children are less than 1%. When we received the news we were left wondering what our next step should be. After much prayer, thought, discussion, and soul searching we decided that we will not pursue any further fertility treatments. Even with the best medicine and doctors our chances are still very slim. We feel good about our decision and are at peace with it for now.
We believe that adoption is the way we will expand our family, it feels very right for us. We were so incredibly blessed with our son Oliver through the miracle of adoption and we are hoping for another miracle. Adoption through a private agency is currently between $30,000-$50,000. YIKES. What you may not be aware of is that private adoptions without an agency are between $2,000-$6,000. The only catch is that when you go totally private you have to find your own babies, there is no agency to help you find available babies/children.
That is where all of you come in to play… We would LOVE it if you would keep us in mind if/when you hear of someone who is considering placing a baby for adoption. We are open to babies of all races, ages, and even babies who are drug exposed. We are also open to open adoptions. We have enclosed a couple of cards that would make the sharing of our contact information a little bit easier for you should you come across someone.
Thank you for your friendship, love and support. It means the world to us to have you in our lives.”
After sending the letters, Avery and James took Oliver to Maui to unwind. While in Maui, a friend called and said, “I got your letter and this might be a long shot but I know someone who needs to place a baby.” At that instant Avery KNEW this was their baby! Her friend told her that the mother (Karen) was currently in jail but she would be paroled soon and Avery could reach her by mail. Avery wrote a letter, but was too afraid to send it. Instead, she waited until Karen was almost paroled to a half-way house and then found out how to arrange a visit. As it turned out, the process would take a week and Karen would have to officially agree to the visit. Avery got nervous – what if Karen had changed her mind and didn’t want to meet? To Avery’s relief, her visit was approved and Karen still wanted to talk about adoption.
Over a few months, Avery and her family visited with Karen, went to doctor’s appointments, and developed a friendship. Sadly, in the beginning of June Karen broke parole and was sent back to prison. Still, she and Avery wrote often and Karen kept her informed on the baby and her progress.
When a person is in prison no one can know if she goes to the hospital, including adoptive parents. Avery knew that she was going to be induced on September 20th and she also knew she wouldn’t get a call until a few days later. It was an awful time, and her mind raced with questions: Did she deliver on the 20th? Was he healthy? Does she still want me to adopt? What if they don’t call? Fortunately, the hospital soon called and let them know they had a sweet baby boy waiting for them.
Karen and Avery continue to have correspond through letters and she can show them to Carter (her son) one day. She wants him to know who his birth mom is and that she loves him. She sends her pictures often and has even been approved to visit Karen in prison.
Over the summer while Avery and James were waiting for Carter to be born they received a call from DCSF asking if they would be willing to take a 4 yr old boy into their home. DCFG told the couple that it would likely turn to adoption. They said yes and now have Aiden in their home as well. After a few months, Aiden decided that he wanted them to be his forever family, and thankfully a judge agreed.
This family shows how love can come from the least expected places! Avery’s advice for other couples looking to adopt is to be VERY proactive, asking friends and family to help them find a baby who needs a home. Letters and even Facebook can help you find a child who needs a forever home!
“#Beinglovedis feeling like someone’s hero!” A mom can be the biggest hero in a child’s world. It is important to make your kids see the hero in you.
“#BeingLOVEDIs being forgiven.” Everyone deserves to be forgiven.